Love and Friendship

'Friendship often ends in love, but love in friendship-never!'


Said someone. It's heart breaking but true. Love is beautiful but scary. One-sided love is even more scary. I can understand this, because I have been in one sided love for more than one time. What I faced was dejection and loneliness. Friendship is a great thing, but two people of opposite sex, when they are friends, and from one side, the friendship turns to love, then it may hurt. It is not necessary that whom you love, loves you back in return. Even when the heart of both the persons are pure, one of them may do something, that ruins the friendship. I have lost a few of friends like that.

Surviving, working, going through all the ups and downs in life bravely, with a straight face, without a smile, and tears. Saving myself from a mental breakdown. It is easy to say, but tough to implement.

I used to be a very shy guy in my school times. I used to keep things to myself. I didn't interact with much people. More introvert than I am currently. I had a crush on a girl in my graduation. Was scared to tell her. Mailed her once about my feelings, but was a little scared to face her after that. I did some mistakes, and she was out of my life. She was a great friend before that.

Few more incidents like those happened. It hurts me, thinking that no matter how good two friends are, a mistake is all that takes, to break the friendship. A person forgets all good things about that person, and what he/she remembers is only that one mistake.

Then I decided to express my feelings more clearly, to anyone, to avoid living in regrets of not saying it when needed. I didn't know that it would also turn into a regret for me.

I am currently on the verge of losing yet another friend like this. I am going through a very tough time in my life, and no one can realize this unless he steps into my shoes.
Yes, it's no excuse for committing a mistake, but I have realized it, and feeling guilty.
This feeling of guilt is very bad. You may or may not understand it well.

I have not given up. I will not give up. Will fight with the circumstances and emerge as a winner again. Amen.

Do you love your parents?

This morning, I woke up to listen to a program on Radio 'Big Heroes'. A gentleman was called on that show, and the incident he shared, made my eyes wet, and I saluted him in my heart.
                That gentleman was wandering in the streets when he saw an old man, in a miserable condition, lying on the footpath. He was in dirty clothes, and smelling terribly. Any normal person would not have even taken notice, but this great man, went to him and talked to him, then he came to know that the man was from a good family, and a retired judge. Then how come, he was in that situation?
                 He took him to his charity home, gave him new clothes, cleaned him up, and gave him some food to eat, then he came to know: That man's sons took away all his money and property and left him on the streets to suffer. Some more persons that nice gentleman met, some were retired army men, some doctors, some more persons like that, some in their late 80's or 90's, who were from a respectable background, but wandering in the streets like a beggar, though they didn't beg from anyone. This gentleman gave all those persons a shelter in his charity home.
                  Hearing that incident, while I was all in respect for that nice gentleman, but it really made some tears appear in my eyes, and made me think for a while.
                  Our parents have done so much for us. They have sacrificed their own happiness to see us happy. How can any person be so cruel to treat his parents so badly, in an age when they seek nothing but a little love and care, from their own children? How are they able to live peacefully when they put the life of their own parents out of peace?
                   They've helped you whenever you were in need, whether an emotional support, or financial support. They thought for your betterment first than themselves. You can not repay even a quarter of what they have done for you. But the least you can do is to give them love and care, always, till they are with you. If they are gone, then if you regret that you couldn't do that much for your parents, it's of no use. If you can't even give them a shelter in their old age, may be you are a billionaire, but sorry to say, you are a pure loser and pathetic person.
                   Think for yourself, if you have some old person in your family. Do he feels ignored? Are you not giving him enough love and care, that he showered upon you? Or, can it be better? If yes, then try giving him more love and care, try to bring a smile on his face daily, and once you do it, believe me, for sure you'll feel some satisfaction within you. Also, always remember, the way you treat your parents, your children also will notice, and they will treat you the same way, when you are in their age.
                    I hope all of you get the message I am trying to convey here. Please take care of your elder ones, if you love them. Thanks for reading.
                                                                              Love, Rish.