Family problems..... why they arise? Why do we expect a lot from everyone? A student works hard for an exam, and his parents expect that he must score >90%... They go to take his report card and then become shocked to see only 70%..when they go home,they scold their son that he wasn't able to score very well... Why don't they understand that every person has his own capabilities? If they had expected less, they would definitely be happy to see the child score well above their expectations...
Similarly, in family relations, if we don't expect our son, daughter or any other relative to take immense care of us, and we take good care of ourself, why should then we have to complain? And then if our relative takes a lil care of us, how would we feel? Elevated? Yes....
There is a saying in geeta that u should keep on doing the work and don't worry about the result. This is not only applicable to doing hard work, but also in every other sphere of life.. If u analyze this quote from a different prospective, u will understand it. It means that we should keep on doing good deeds, and never expect the same from others... Many of us fail to imbibe this feeling with in us.. They expect a lot from others, and even a slightest word is misspelled or any small mistake is committed by a person,then they take it to their heart... If a person becomes broad minded, and don't ponder over such stupid, silly things, and let go, don't we have less cases of depression,brain hemorrhage and heart attack? I think so.. But when will people become such broad-minded?Even if u are thinking hard about the other person not taking care of u, the damage will only come to u, the heart attack or nervous tension etc; or if any mild, then at least a headache will trouble u.. and the person of whom you are thinking about, is enjoying in his own world, enjoying Tv serials.. His mind is relaxed, coz his mind,heart and rest of body is strong, and it's not the case with u...
People mostly suffer heart attack or such kinds of psychological problems thinking about others.. They don't take much care of their own health, but when the other person is responsible directly or indirectly for it, then they keep on earning depression...
I am no exception to this rule...I also sometimes feel much about this useless stuff, but I finally manage to 'let go' and try taking my mind to some other side, and it always helps me a lot....
There is some problem going on in my family coz of these bloody expectations only, and a lot of communication gap;when every person is engaged in formalities and other useless and political stuff, rather than solving these problems... Sometimes I feel helpless,what to do... Just then I turn to God and pray to him to clear this big misunderstanding, which has begun as a consequence of about 10-20 small blunders which were not resolved at that time....
I want to summarize this discussion by saying a small sentense:
' Don't expect, but accept'
Luv,
Rishh.
